I wanted to link to this post at Conversion Diary: Where there's Help. It really highlights some of the differences in secular wisdom versus Godly wisdom.
I have found true wisdom to be contrary in most respects to what I was holding in my heart in my early 20s. I was nice to people, but as she mentions there that was just another bullet point on my list of things to do. If nothing else, being nice to people usually got them to be nice to me, and it made people happy and think better of me.